Use It or Lose It!
Posted: Wednesday, January 13, 2010
by Keira Benson
When I chose this as my slogan to take me through the middle part of my life, I had no idea that this phrase could be applied to so many important things.
It was brought home to me forcefully when a close relative began to suffer from premature dementia. The slower she became at doing things, the more her partner tried to help her, until he eventually ended up doing those things for her.
Cause and effect.
I'm not saying this was the reason for her eventual decline into full-blown Alzheimer's but it definitely didn't help.
Stroke victims are encouraged to try to regain the physical skills that they have lost through their attack. Particularly women because, unlike men, they use lots of different parts of their brains to perform a specific function. Strokes tend to affect one side of the body and so women can retrain one of the parts on the healthy side of the brain to take over the entire task.
That's not to say that men cannot regain the use of their limbs after a stroke but it takes a lot more willpower and determination to retrain because their brains are much more part-specific than a woman's. However, as with all things, the harder you try, the more likely you are to succeed.
If you practice a foreign language regularly, you become more fluent. Refrain from using it and the skills begin to decline. Your knowledge of the vocabulary is depleted, the speed with which the words come to your mind diminishes.
And, apparently, it's the same with sex, only more so because it's all in the mind. The more you have it, the more you want it. If the pleasure centres are activated frequently, they remain stimulated and you feel the compulsive urge to do it again.
If they are not, you lose the desire to repeat the exercise and your libido drops accordingly. Once that happens, your relationship can start to hit a brick wall because you begin to lose the intimacy... and from there it can be a downward spiral.
Couples need to find ways to spice up their sex lives to make them interesting, to maintain the excitement and levels of lust for their partner and their physical relationship.
In some media articles that I have been reading recently, Menopausal women are advised to masturbate or indulge in full sex regularly to maintain the elasticity and lubrication of their vaginas. Those who abstain are likely to discover shrinkage and dryness as a result. Anything that will stimulate the required areas should be embraced, including toys or even those special Kegel devices which, after insertion into the vagina, emit an electrical pulse, especially designed to stimulate the internal muscles and alleviate any of the problems mentioned above.
Alternatively, you can just make the time to make love with your partner. I can't help wondering if the sudden increase in libido after a woman hits 40 is one of Nature's ways to encourage us to use it rather than lose it...
...and spice up our relationships in the process.
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